Do you sometimes feel as if a heavy weight is on your shoulder, as if a giant burden is pushing you down? Do you sometimes lie awake at night, still repeating inner conflicts and thoughts about the pressing problems in your life?
Don’t worry, you are not alone with that. This is a phase that every human being needs to get through. And it is also the reason, why we are not able to continue our development, because as long as we keep this burden of sorrow and fears on our shoulders and are not able to release it, we will feel stuck and frustrated.
But there is a solution to this dilemma, that is known for over 2,000 years, yet so little used today.
It’s time to reveal it once again, NOW!
What Is the Heaviest Burden on Your Soul?
What are the things we feel sorry about? What are the things we will feel sorry on our deathbed?
Hint: It is 99.9% of the time not the things we did, but the things we didn’t do, that will make us feel sorry and sadden our lives.
Not the mistakes we made, but the chances we had and weren’t going for are dragging our souls down.
How to Let Go of This Burden?
That is why Jesus said that you should go and settle your problems with other people (as well as yourself) before you pray.
Leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.Matthew 5:24
He knew, that all the important things that you missed doing, all the disputes you didn’t settled, all the reproaches against others AND yourself, that you weren’t able to dissolve are constantly capturing your mind and won’t allow any moment of peace to happen and therefore, won’t allow you to get into a spiritual connection with your creator.
Step 1 – Awareness of the Burden
But before you can settle anything, you need to become aware of its existence. You need to bring it back to consciousness. You need to go through the pain of looking at it, and not letting it be suppressed into your subconscious only because you want to avoid the pain.
I know this could be tough. I know this could be painful, but I also know that, unless you are able to do so, peace of mind will flee you, and you won’t be able to attain it. There is a huge difference between a state of numbed-out sorrows and peace of mind.
First, you must become aware of it. You should write it all out.
Bring it out of your mind on paper. This helps you, because leaving it in your mind will allow the part of you who wants to suppress it, to pull it away from you. Having it on paper also makes it easier to dissociate yourself from it.
It is a paradox, that writing it down will make it much clearer to you, while at the same time allowing you to feel so much lighter once the soul and mind no longer needs to constantly repeat it in your brain. Your brain needs to repeat those reproaches and sorrows in your head only because it wants to make sure, that you don’t forget about it. Bringing it out on paper follows the same mechanism that David Allen called “Mind like Water” in his GTD methodology.
The Biggest Hindrance – Numbness of the Mind
And we know this deep inside ourselves. But we try to numb ourselves from these painful feelings, these painful realizations. We try to forget them and suppress them. But our subconscious mind will never forget them. Yet trying to forget them on a conscious level always increases the heaviness of the burden for our soul.
So writing down the things you wanted to avoid is one way of keeping your awareness focused.
Step 2 – What Is Stopping You from Letting Go the Burden?
If you wanted to do for something important for a while but hadn’t done, there is a reason from your subconscious why you haven’t done so. You must find out, why you haven’t done, what’s necessary, why you weren’t able to dissolve the problem already.
I bet with those situations you had enough chances to do it, so failure to follow through shouldn’t be searched in the outer world. The block, that is stopping you from dissolving your burden, is within you. And it has one single name – FEAR!
So write down “What am I afraid of that could happen, if I do the necessary steps to dissolve my burden? What consequences am I afraid of?”
What Is Feeding Your Fears?
Do you know where fear get’s its power from? From being unclear, from being undefined, from being vague. As long as it is more a feeling inside you, a vague idea in your brain, it has power over you. This vagueness feeds your fears. But you can regain that power and control, by dragging the fear out of the darkness of your mind fog into the light of day by writing it on paper. So write the answers to the questions above down in your journal.
Get Power over Your Fears
By writing your fears out, you can get into a dialogue with them. It is no longer a monologue in your mind, that keeps you captured but a dialogue that will allow you to see your fears clearly and dissolve them.
Don’t Negate Your Fears
Negating them will only suppress them and help them to become stronger. Negating them will push them back into the fog of vagueness inside your brain. So keep them in the light of consciousness by writing them down and getting into a dialogue with them.
Step 3 – Overcoming your Blocks – Dialogue With Your Fears
You should look at your fears with the eyes of a scientist. Each fear is ONE way of looking at the world. They are like hypotheses. And a hypothesis needs to be either confirmed or falsified.
- So get out a paper.
- On the top write down your fear
- the remainder of page you divide by a vertical line.
- On the left side, you write everything that would lead to a confirmation of the hypothesis of your fear
- On the right side you write down anything that would lead to a falsification of your fear.
You could have a real dialogue with your fear and find out, what it wants from you. Your fear is no bad thing at all. It’s essence is that it wants to protect you from harm. You should acknowledge that. So the right side of the page consists of all aspects, that would like you to become aware of any potential danger ahead of you. You should acknowledge that and take it into conscious consideration.
The left side however, shows you that although you should be aware of any dangers ahead of you, only focusing on them will keep you stuck and won’t allow you to grow. You need to move out of your comfort zone and your fears to grow. The left side will show you possibilities to do it, to grow out of your current zone of comfort.
With this scientific approach, you now have the ability to take the positive, protective aspects of your fear into consideration, while allowing yourself to not be frozen by it any longer and now making a conscious consideration to move forward.
Once you’ve made that scientific dialogue, you should then focus on what it would be like if you did let go of that burden and did the necessary action already. See in your mind, how it will be, once you’ve did it. Enjoy those good feelings.
Step 4 – Taking Action
Once you are able to release the fears that blocked you, you are then able to do the things necessary to dissolve what has been a burden for so long to you.
You should use the momentum and do it immediately if possible. If it is not possible, you should definitely schedule it and write down the FIRST step necessary towards your outcome.
And once you are able to let go of the fear and dissolve your problems with other people AND yourself, you are able to get in contact with whatever higher power you believe in. Then you are free to go to the temple of your mind and reconnect with your spiritual power as well as enjoy your life with a level of happiness you never dreamed possible before.