Comments on: The Lessons of Pain http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/ Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:12:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: uberVU - social commentshttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1637 uberVU - social comments Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:36:31 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1637 <p><strong>Social comments and analytics for this post...</strong></p><p>This post was mentioned on Twitter by Maria_bg: RT @unwrapyourmind:New article: The Lessons of Pain http://ow.ly/Miys...</p> Social comments and analytics for this post…

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]]> By: Patrickhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1586 Patrick Sat, 19 Dec 2009 23:33:53 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1586 <p>Charley, the damn thing with rumination is that it can become a habit, so you don't need any loss or big pain anymore to get it triggered, just everyday situations can be enough to trigger it. So it's best to fight it at its root.</p> Charley, the damn thing with rumination is that it can become a habit, so you don’t need any loss or big pain anymore to get it triggered, just everyday situations can be enough to trigger it. So it’s best to fight it at its root.

]]> By: Patrickhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1585 Patrick Sat, 19 Dec 2009 23:32:30 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1585 <p>Thanks Madeleine. Yes, helping others and other people can be a great way to transform your pain. Fortunately I hadn't had a great loss recently (I've just had to counsel a friend).</p> Thanks Madeleine. Yes, helping others and other people can be a great way to transform your pain. Fortunately I hadn’t had a great loss recently (I’ve just had to counsel a friend).

]]> By: Madeleinehttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1424 Madeleine Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:31:20 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1424 <p>Hi Patrick, Your post makes me think of someone I love whose teen-age son died in an auto accident years ago. He must have asked the Why and the How questions over and over, and what helped him in the end was to help others. Last year he established a scholarship in his son's name.</p><p>Other people can be a huge source of comfort when tragedy strikes.My thoughts are with you.</p> Hi Patrick, Your post makes me think of someone I love whose teen-age son died in an auto accident years ago. He must have asked the Why and the How questions over and over, and what helped him in the end was to help others. Last year he established a scholarship in his son’s name.

Other people can be a huge source of comfort when tragedy strikes.My thoughts are with you.

]]> By: Charleyhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1423 Charley Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:10:00 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1423 <p>Hi Patrick,</p><p>Very thought-provoking article. I've been quite guilty of rumination lately, and I can't even attribute it to a tragedy. I've greeted everyday challenges with a series of why questions and you're right, they do nothing to help the situation. We seem to want to find a reason for each obstacle so that we can categorize it and possibly better understand it. Unfortunately, this provides no other positive value to the situation.</p><ul> <li>Charley</li> </ul><p>.-= ´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/YouSimplified/~3/Y7NWMWvvvME/" rel="nofollow">Disclosure Policy – Annoying Housekeeping</a> =-.</p> Hi Patrick,

Very thought-provoking article. I’ve been quite guilty of rumination lately, and I can’t even attribute it to a tragedy. I’ve greeted everyday challenges with a series of why questions and you’re right, they do nothing to help the situation. We seem to want to find a reason for each obstacle so that we can categorize it and possibly better understand it. Unfortunately, this provides no other positive value to the situation.

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My ComLuv Profile]]> By: Patrickhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1422 Patrick Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:27:03 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1422 <p>Gail, Why could lead us into a victim state but taking false responsibility (where there is no responsibility) could also been provoked by a false Why-Question. But I agree that taking responsibility is necessary for yourself finding the way out of pain.</p> Gail, Why could lead us into a victim state but taking false responsibility (where there is no responsibility) could also been provoked by a false Why-Question. But I agree that taking responsibility is necessary for yourself finding the way out of pain.

]]> By: Patrickhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1421 Patrick Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:25:28 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1421 <p>Eduard, I like the comparison with cows. And as we now learned that the byproduct of cows is one of the major factors of the climate crisis, the byproduct of our mental rumination is the main factor for our mental crisis as well. Thanks for the new insight.</p> Eduard, I like the comparison with cows. And as we now learned that the byproduct of cows is one of the major factors of the climate crisis, the byproduct of our mental rumination is the main factor for our mental crisis as well. Thanks for the new insight.

]]> By: Gail @ A Flourishing Lifehttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1419 Gail @ A Flourishing Life Wed, 16 Dec 2009 01:29:23 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1419 <p>Hi Patrick, The disempowering why questions promote a victim mentality in which we feel something was done to us. When we take responsibility for our own reactions and learn from what happened, we are more able to move forward without carrying around the effects of trauma.</p><p>Thanks for a great article about a challenging subject.</p><p>.-= ´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/gailbrenner/teDD/~3/wGFEmkE_Gnw/" rel="nofollow">Freedom from the Prison of Your Habits #3: Examining Thoughts</a> =-.</p> Hi Patrick, The disempowering why questions promote a victim mentality in which we feel something was done to us. When we take responsibility for our own reactions and learn from what happened, we are more able to move forward without carrying around the effects of trauma.

Thanks for a great article about a challenging subject.

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My ComLuv Profile]]> By: Ideas With A Kickhttp://www.unwrapyourmind.com/the-lessons-of-pain/comment-page-1/#comment-1418 Ideas With A Kick Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:35:47 +0000 http://www.unwrapyourmind.com/?p=1033#comment-1418 <p>Hey Patrick,</p><p>There's a word in psychology for this king of bad why asking you're talking about. It's called rumination. Just like a cow, ruminating the food. It's not a pleasant association, just as it's not an effective way of thinking or addressing bad things that do happen.</p><p>Eduard</p><p>.-= ´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.ideaswithakick.com/the-key-to-become-charismatic-and-what-is-cbt/" rel="nofollow">The key to become charismatic and what is CBT</a> =-.</p> Hey Patrick,

There’s a word in psychology for this king of bad why asking you’re talking about. It’s called rumination. Just like a cow, ruminating the food. It’s not a pleasant association, just as it’s not an effective way of thinking or addressing bad things that do happen.

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